This book is perfect for anyone that wants to get their professional and personal life back on track.
I first heard about this book from Myke Hurley and CGP Grey on the Cortex Podcast and they both gave it very positive reviews. The author, Marshall Goldsmith is a professional coach and has a unique method of getting his message across. He is also only paid after the people around the individual he is coaching agree that the subject has changed for the better.
There is so much to unpack in this book as it is full of useful examples so to keep this review short, I’ll focus on a few of the main topics as to why you should read it.
As the book’s name identifies, the first step in working to better yourself, is identify the triggers that are causing you to feel stressed, upset, regretful, and resentful. The paragraph that I personally identified with was right at the beginning:
Once identifying the triggers that effect us, the book goes into how we react and process the impacts on us.
By acknowledging we all have a mental “leader role’ in the morning, but by the afternoon we should take more of an ‘employee role’ and stick to what we set out to do by following a guiding system. The system to use is laid out in the second section of the book.
II. The 6 Questions to Kick-Start Change
- Did I do my best to set clear goals?
- Did I do my best to make progress toward my goals?
- Did I do my best to find meaning?
- Did I do my best to be happy?
- Did I do my best to build positive relationships?
- Did I do my best to be fully engaged?
While these are all very general, this is only the starting point for the questions that matter the most to you and your goals. Specific questions are encouraged once you identify what you want to work on, like eating fewer carbs. The transformative substance of the book explains that focusing on effort, rather than results, is the main objective in the short term. Each day if you asked yourself how well you tried, it makes you much more accountable.
The daily questions are scored on a number system 1-10 on how well you tried to do something. Here are my own questions I came up with and so far after starting this program I have lost 5 lbs after 2 weeks.
For my personal goals, the structure is what I had been missing in the past. Once you have the data from the daily questions, or that you already know you would like to improve, the structure is there to help. The examples in this section provide evidence to show that by setting up things for yourself ahead of time, you will be able to achieve the goals you set out for yourself.
This section also shows where you may suffer and how to get avoid failing. One of the main points made in this section deals with something called Emotional Depletion.
I would say that this book is geared more to the professional life, but it has many personal aspects that make it a well rounded read. You can find it on Amazon here. I also recommend the audio book version as it is shorter than most books and the author does a good job reading it.